At her age, you won’t be the first man she sleeps with, and at yours, she won’t be the first woman. Let’s lose the “sleep” connotation and call it what it really is. Sex. Since we’re talking about her and her sexuality, let’s do our best to see her from her own point-of-view.

Inside, pretty much like us, she sees herself younger—maybe much younger. The only time the harsh reality of her true age shocks her is when she sees herself naked in front of a full-length mirror. Knowing that, she does her best to minimize such encounters. It’s bad enough when she’s applying her makeup, spots new wrinkles, sees her age clearly outlined upon her face. Stark reminder she’s getting older! You know how that feels.

Now she’s met you. The two of you have made enough of a connection that having sex is the natural next step in your relationship. You have no way of knowing how long it’s been since she’s let a man see her naked. Doesn’t matter. What does matter is her self-image. As she prepares to join you in bed for this first time, you will please understand that she’s most likely very self-conscious. The naked flesh with which she is about to present you is no longer that tight, sleek, toned body of which she was once so proud. A body that through a strict exercise regimen and dieting, she might have managed to hang onto throughout most of her fifties. But she’s 60+ now, and nervous about how her physical appearance stands up against unforgiving male scrutiny.   

Women know us better than we know ourselves. They know how body conscious we are, always will be, and here she is about to offer you her naked body. You will please look at her as if she was, at that moment, the most beautiful woman in the world. Truth be told, in the world the two of you now inhabit, she is.

I think the odds are she’ll want the lights dim, which also works better for you, by the way. She’ll most likely wear something when she gets under the covers with you. It will be thin, silky, feel good to your touch. There are all sorts of things you can do while this flimsy garment is still shielding her nakedness.

This is not a HOW TO MAKE LOVE TO A 60+ YEAR OLD WOMAN article. Way too short for that. Rather than offering suggestions, let me instead offer a philosophy. Since this is your first time with your new lady friend, may I suggest you dedicate yourself 100% to giving her pleasure. That there be endless kissing, caressing, biting and licking. It’s called foreplay and it’s quite possible that very, very few of the men she’s been with have ever given her the elevated degree of pre-sex pleasure in which you are now about to envelop her.

Ask her to simply relax, lie there so you can do things that will slowly, deliciously, drive her out of her mind with desire. Desire for you, I hasten to add! Hearing her as she responds to what you’re doing to her should be a huge turn-on for you, and inspire you to keep doing it until a time comes when she will beg you to please let her have her long-withheld orgasm. This sexual torment you have created for her is something she can no longer stand. She needs release. NOW!