Since I am not a doctor, psychologist or family counselor, I think you have the right to know who I am and how I qualify to share my insight. I’m a 76-year old man who has lived in several countries, had a wide variety of jobs, which included working in the first luxury hotel built in the country of Panama. Back in the day when airplanes had propellers, I worked for TWA. I was a television director at Panama’s first TV station. Had an office at 20^th Century Fox where I worked as a screenwriter for two years. In every one of those occupations, I had the pleasure of working with and getting to know many bright and independent women. My relationships with most of those remarkable ladies were based on friendship, not sex. As a result of that, it was easy for them to tell me things they would never have shared with their husbands or boyfriends.

Combining the vast number of insights I have accumulated from those and more recent past relationships—whether as friend, lover, or spouse—I am now sharing with you a lifetime of wisdom based on my natural ability to listen to women and learn how they think about men and the specifics they seek in their relationships with them. 

We have a pretty good profile on the type of man like you who visits our website. Your interests. Your educational level. And in your specific case, since you are reading this column, your main interest now, which is finding that special woman with whom to spend the rest of your life. What we have no way of knowing is how long you’ve been searching for her, what your experiences have been during that search. Clearly, it would seem, you could use a little help.

In the previous section about the 60+ Woman, we gave you a very basic background on these wonderful creatures. We also talked a little about you and how your boyhood experiences have colored every single relationship you’ve ever had with a woman. So far, every time you’ve met a woman, it’s been pretty much about you and what you wanted. Perfectly natural, but you can see where that outlook tends to narrow your selection process substantially, not to mention your degree of success after meeting someone new. So far, then, it’s been all about you. Fine. But how about taking a step back and asking yourself that same question from where she’s standing? And that question is, what is that extraordinary 60+ Woman looking for in a man?

She’s looking for this…

Like you, she’s been through her share of battles. Won some. Lost some. And like you, she’s been scarred which, also like you, makes her cautious. Fortunately, she has a built-in New Male Approaching Radar that alerts her the moment it senses a potential intruder. In this case, that’s you. You can be sure that this sophisticated system of hers will have an amazingly accurate database on you within the first few minutes of your initial encounter, and it will also provide her with the answer to the question she asks herself every time she meets a new man. “Does this one have possibilities?” 

While every woman will have a different set of criteria for the qualities she’s looking for in a man, most are pretty basic: “Is he well-groomed? Is he articulate? Is he smart? Is he funny? Does he listen? Is he kind and sensitive? Does he radiate positive energy and self-confidence? Does he convince me he’s honest and trustworthy? Does he want a committed relationship? Does he have a capacity for love? Do I want to get to know him better? Can I see myself in bed with this man?” In short, the 60+ Woman isn’t going to settle. At this stage in her life, she’s looking for the complete package. Aren’t you? And doesn’t this woman present a most delightful challenge. Assuming she’s the woman you want, once you make an effort to understand her, the rest will be much easier to deal with and a lot more fun.