Indoors? Outdoors? If your first kiss lying down happens indoors, I should warn you. There is an excellent chance it isn’t going to stop at kissing. But I’m getting ahead of myself. Let’s begin outdoors:

Where could that be? In a park? The beach? A backyard? Somewhere outdoors with not too many people around. It’s just the two of you enjoying a beautiful day together and you are about to kiss for the first time. How to make it truly memorable? 

There you are, you and this fabulous woman, lying down. You’re on your side next to her, looking down into her expectant face. Expectant because she’s no dummy and she knows what’s on your transparent mind. You are about to kiss her, for the first time.

Hey! This is a special moment, one the two of you will remember forever if things go well, so take your time! Look at her face, into her eyes, allow both her and yourself to linger over this moment of exciting anticipation. Did I tell you how much I love anticipation? Think so. It’s those seconds that tick by as you look at each other, mentally and emotionally preparing for what’s about to happen.  

You might consider first kissing her someplace other than her lips. Kiss her closed eyes, both of them, softly, several times. Her cheeks. Both of them, gently. By being gentle here, you are preparing her for what will be a gentle first kiss, mouth to mouth.

Caress her face, her forehead with your hand, the tips of your fingers, kissing her face along the way. Then there’s her neck—an extremely sensitive area for many women. Let your kisses here linger. Perhaps letting the tip of your tongue go over the parts you just kissed. If you hear sighs, moans of pleasure, continue kissing her neck all over. She’s having a really good time, thanks to you. 

And where is your hand while all this sighing and moaning is going on? Still caressing her face. Along her side, her waist, her hip. You might want to move it close to her breast along the way, but don’t go there. She might think you are, but don’t! You want her full attention focused on what your lips are doing, will soon be doing.

When you finish this appetizer, lift up and look down at her. What do you see? Is she smiling? Good. She’s in a playful, receptive mood. Is she, instead, looking at you with barely controlled passion. Also good.  

She can’t wait for you to kiss her. In fact, she might even grab you, speed up the process. But if it’s still up to you, hold that look, let her know how important this moment is to you, then lower your lips to hers, barely touching. Hold them there. ANTICIPATION! Then move slightly closer so you are kissing her, for the first time, several times over with mounting pressure, mounting passion. Good. Okay, let’s try this indoors:

Where are you? On a sofa? The floor. A bed? The two of you, lying down, kissing for the first, second, third, etc. times—and it’s even better than you thought it would be. Now what? Well, neither one of you is a teenager. Neither one of you is a virgin, so now what?  

During the course of your time together this day, before this delicious moment, you’ve both had time to think about it, anticipate it. This is the beginning of everything that comes after, so focus all of your affectionate, love, and sexual energy into that first kiss. Remember, for her, this is more intimate than sex. It will only happen this one time. Your first kiss.

If she’s letting you kiss her, she’s already decided she wants to have sex with you, and God knows that same thought has crossed your mind as well. But before that happens, there has to be this. The first kiss.

Sitting, standing, lying down, indoors, outdoors wherever. If you both sense something special happening between you—that maybe, just maybe, this isn’t going to be just a first kiss—that it’s going to be the first of a long series of kisses for the rest of your lives—then translate that feeling into your first kiss. She’ll get the message.

If I sound like a hopeless romantic, guilty. I LOVE KISSING! And more than anything, I love first kisses. They are filled with promise, with possibilities. Sure, most of those will be just for the fun of it with no long-term expectations. That’s fine. But every once in a rare while you’ll be with a woman and you’ll both know that when you kiss for the first time, it isn’t going to be casual. It’s that special kind of kiss I’ve been visiting with you about. An unforgettable first—but not last—kiss.