When you’re riding with your significant other in the car, lying in bed watching him sleep, or watching him stare into space, do you ever wonder what’s going on inside his head? Is he thinking how grateful he is for having a wonderful career and his many financial, social, and psychological blessings? Of course he’s happy, you say. Look at who he’s got for a soul mate—yours truly, Miss Perfection.

But ask him how his life is going, and you’ll get little more than fine for a couple of reasons. Not only can the answer be upsetting, there’s a good chance that he doesn’t have a clue about how to explore the tangle of issues that relate to his most important possession, his own life. Keep in mind that for years, perhaps decades, the guy has subordinated his own wants, needs, and desires to those of his family and career.

So why ask such a sensitive question now? Because the quality of his life may depend on the answer. Whether he’s working or retired, the longer he lives the more his quality of happiness will impact his health and success and his relationship with you. So, if you value your happiness as a woman, you will also value his as a man. 

There’s a book that can help you help him achieve that level of satisfaction you know he deserves. Survival Guide for the American Male is currently available for download on http://sixtyissexynow.com in "Boutique 60." Amazingly, I’ve found nothing like it—not on the Internet, not in bookstores. The Guide begins by explaining the role of Twentieth Century Man. It seems that while Mom and I were getting liberated, he and men like him were being de-emphasized, marginalized, and even ignored. After laying down a factual and entertaining foundation, the Guide provides practical tools to helps the inner man survive and thrive as he takes his long delayed giant step in pursuit of his own happiness. 

As a woman reader, the Survival Guide gave me a whole new perspective on what it means to be a modern man. Now when a guy grows silent and leaves me for a place long ago and far away, I like to thing I have a better idea of where he’s gone and what he’s thinking about. More important, I’m better able to help make the future better for him—and even for yours very truly, Miss Perfection.