If there is one universal need it is to love and be loved. No one would argue that. So, you would think that after all these eons of practice, man and woman would finally have learned to get it right. And yet, that is far from the case.

As many self-styled experts as there are on the subject of attracting and keeping love, there is no sure-fire guarantee you will succeed where others, allegedly far wiser than you, continue to fail so brilliantly. We have only to point to certain relationship icons like TV’s Dr. Phil and best-selling author John Grey to provide proof that those who chose to dole out advice do not necessarily take it, themselves.

So, what is the secret to everlasting love? There isn’t any, because if there were, we would surely have found it by now. It’s just common sense, really, when you think about it. For example, unless there are complex physical issues that prevent you from losing weight, all you have to do to drop the pounds is to eat less and exercise more. Could it be easier to follow such simple rules? I don’t think so. Same goes for love. You want to attract and keep love? Okay, then, just make it easy for someone to love you. How do you do that? Well, assuming the object of your affection is not a commitment-phobe and also assuming there is mutual chemistry involved, try applying the Golden Rule, and you should remain on relatively safe ground—of course, as long as you keep in mind the differences between the sexes. It’s important to know those differences because that is where the trouble often comes in.

As a woman, you want togetherness with your guy or you feel he doesn’t “love” you enough. On the other hand, as a man, you want your space from a woman or you feel she is “smothering” you.

Sorry if I have confused you with the facts, which, if we only looked at them with fresher eyes, we would have a smoother run at life. It was Einstein, remember, who defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Einstein would have been the first to tell you he couldn’t figure it out, either. If he had, he would not have been having so much woman trouble throughout his lifetime. Oh, sure, he could