Most of what we’ve talked about in the previous three installments of our visit has focused on the physical side of things. But there is another area, perhaps even more important: the mental playground.

You can play in that one anytime. You can tease, and flirt, and create images there while riding in a car. Or on a bus, in an airplane, walking along the beach, riding a bike, in the kitchen—while dining together, just the two of you. Even in a crowd. You could be at a party, look at each other and one of you can lean close, whisper something sexy to the other. Create a delicious mental image. And I think God would understand if you guys did that even while attending a religious service. 

Look, I know it’s hard to keep a relationship fresh year after year. It’s one thing to feel frisky in your twenties, thirties and forties. But if you’ve been together for over thirty years, what surprises can you possibly have to look forward to?

The two of you have written your Life Script together. You know all the chapters by heart. So now what? Well, how about going back and rereading some of your favorite parts? If they happened some place other than where you’re living now, good! Go back there. Remember as much as you can about that chapter. Where you were. What the weather was like. What did you see when you looked out the window? Describe the room. The place. The smells. Sounds. Take your time. See and hear and smell as much about that location as you can. See it in your mind. What were you wearing? And best of all, what happened that made that time and place so unforgettable?