In the first part of this article—and you did read it, right?—in that first part we talked about playing games, pretending to be someone else, and that you would probably feel silly doing that. So what? Try it anyway. Let’s explore the possibilities: 

What if instead of just getting into a costume of some sort, you take it a step farther. What if you pick a place you two have never been. No costume required, just that you both dress differently than you normally would. I’ll leave the selection of wardrobe up to you, but you should each dress in separate rooms. You, the man, will arrive first, find a place at the bar, order a drink, wait for her to arrive. You look nice, and feel confident in your appearance. You are also feeling a degree of excitement that you may not have felt for a while. See? It’s working already. 

She arrives, also looking nice. She sees you, finds a seat a few stools away. After she orders a drink, you get up, casually walk over to hit on this woman, totally relaxed—unlike other times when you were just another guy trying to hit on a stranger. This one, you know, is not going to shoot you down. You take the seat next to her and begin your pitch. You tell her how nice she looks—that you like the perfume she’s using, her lovely dress, etc. etc. You know that from here on it’s up to you two to play out this sexy little scene. And you will make it sexy. Let her see you looking down the front of her dress, and taking a good look at her cleavage. Tell her she has beautiful breasts, something you would never tell a woman you were actually trying to pick up. Kiss her on the cheek, tell her you’d like to take her home, make mad passionate love to her, RIGHT NOW! Then follow through on your proposal.

How long this scene lasts is entirely up to you, your imagination. You can keep talking, saying all sorts of sexy things to each other, feeling each other’s thighs where no one can see, telling each other what you’d like to do—and the more details the better.          

If you continue the charade until you get home, until you jump into bed and get naked, I think you might be pleasantly surprised by the results. No, of course you can’t do this on a regular basis. In fact, that would take the fun out of it. Moments will come when you’ll both remember how much fun you had the last time you played the game and you’ll decide, in that moment, that you want to play it again. 

I think it would be a good idea if the two of you went out, scouted places you could use for future encounters. Just doing that might get your juices flowing. Who knows?