It happens to all of us, sooner or later, hopefully later. If you and your partner have been together for several years, a time will come when that heart-skipping thrill you felt every time you went to bed together will stop skipping and instead become a more leisurely stroll. The pleasure you still give each other is still there, just not as exciting as it once was so what can you do about that? The possible answers to that question are limited only by your imagination.

In the beginning. Always liked that phrase. It implies that something really important is coming up next. I’ll do my best. In the beginning, every sexual encounter between you was terrific. How could it not be? It was new! Exciting! You were getting to know each other! WOW! When can we do that again? And then, tick, tick, tick. Time passed and it wasn’t the beginning anymore.

The key word in there is, “new.” New stuff is always more exciting than not so new stuff. Not sure how you describe your current stuff, except it isn’t new…unless. Unless we can do something to get the new back into our relationship. And guess what? We can! 

There are quite a few parts of your sex life you can change. No, not positions as much as setting, wardrobe and location. Oh, and one more thing. You can also change who you are. I guess it’s possible you’ve heard about getting into some sort of costume and pretending to be someone else, yes? You’ve heard about it, but have you tried it? Probably not. And your excuse is? Not acceptable. Along with all the other wonderful things sex is, it should also be FUN!

Humor me on this. Let’s begin with something really simple. On the long list of male fantasies is the one where he is greeted at the door by a woman in high heels wearing a full-length coat. Fur is best, but any full-length coat will do. Under this coat she is naked. It doesn’t get much simpler than that.  

Carrying on with this naked theme, ladies, here’s another, really simple one: As you and your husband are arriving to the front door of the party you’re going to, lean over and whisper in his ear, “Sweetheart. I’m not wearing panties.” Won’t that be a fun evening! Come on. There you are, dancing with a mutual male friend and your guy will know something he doesn’t. And there you are chatting with some of your proper girlfriends and if they only knew. This is a little game you ladies can play every once in a while when the proper occasion presents itself, and the more proper that occasion, the better. I don’t care how long you two have been together, unexpected nakedness is always a turn-on.